How to Ask For Help as a Parent
Asking for help as a parent may feel like you’ve failed, and you may even feel guilty about it, but reaching out when you need help shows that you are willing to let go of your ego for the good of your child. When you are struggling with a child’s behavioral or mental issues, there is help for you. Asking for it can be easier said than done, but it is worth the effort.
Accepting You Need Help
Being a parent doesn’t mean you’re immune to stress, anxiety, and struggle. Parents experience plenty of worries, even under the best of circumstances. Needing help is not a sign of failure, but of humanity. There is a reason the phrase “It takes a village” is so famous.
Raising a child to become self-sufficient, independent, well-behaved, and decent is not easy. If you are struggling, understand that it is okay to need help. Asking for it is the first step to improving your mindset, outlook, and overall wellness.
Working on yourself and asking for help for yourself or your child is vital for overcoming behavioral issues, stress, mental health conditions, addictions, and more. Needing help for any reason is nothing to be ashamed of. Rather, asking for help shows your willingness to grow and do what’s best for your child, even if it’s hard for you.
How to Know When You Need Help
Odds are, you know when you’re stressed, and as a parent, that is often. However, when your child is struggling and it’s impacting you and the family, you may need help. If your child is struggling with trauma or attachment issues, check their adverse childhood experience score (ACES) to help you understand if your child needs more significant help than teenagers with minor or moderate issues.
Understanding the level of care and treatment you and your child may need is vital to receiving the proper help. Havenwood Academy is here for parents who have reached the point of being unable to manage their child’s struggles alone. We are here to help you and your family find your way back to a stable and loving environment.
Where to Get Help
Once you can admit to needing help and know you need it, knowing where to find it can be another hurdle. Who do you go to for resources and guidance? There are more people and services available that can help than you may realize. Everyone from the government to schools, from parent and friends to doctors are there to offer you support. Depending on your predicament, who you seek help from may vary.
Needing assistance with child care or just having someone you can vent to can offer a great deal of stress relief. Don’t hesitate to ask your loved ones for support. Reach out to a loved one and tell them why and how you’re struggling. Ask whether they can babysit for a day so you can rest or if they could take you for a relaxing night out.
Your child’s school likely offers a number of programs and resources you can benefit from. Whether there are after-school activities to provide your child with necessary socialization, a release of energy, or for you to have some time to relax, use those tools. You might find information about these programs on the school’s website, or you can ask your child’s teacher or the school guidance counselor for pointers.
If you need help because your child is struggling with school, behaviors, addictive substances, or something else, you can also ask your child’s teacher what they’ve observed during class, what they suggest, and if they can guide you toward resources.
Your child’s pediatrician is also a wonderful resource for guidance and support during tough times for you, your child, or the whole family. Try reaching out to your child’s doctor and let them know of any behavioral, physical, or mental issues you or your child are struggling with. The doctor will very likely have resources to support you or at least know where to direct you for those resources.
It is also a good idea to research what your local and state governments offer for parents in need. Whether you need help with finances, child care, your mental health, or your child’s, the government funds a number of programs to assist you in these areas.
Whether or not your local resources like your doctor and school provide you with the help you need, Havenwood Academy is here for those families and parents that need further guidance for more severe issues. When your child has endured trauma or is struggling with an attachment disorder, you may need expert treatment in a residential program designed to help adolescent girls and their families heal with comfort and support.
Asking for Help
When it comes to asking for help, even if you know who to go to and recognize that it is not a sign of bad parenting, it can still be awkward. You might not want to admit to someone close to you — or even a stranger — that you can’t do it all on your own. Finding the strength to ask for the good of your child, even though it is uncomfortable, is what makes you such a good parent.
Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. No matter the problem, there is assistance for you and your family.
Havenwood Academy is here to provide you and your child with the help you need in a caring and safe environment. If you need help with your daughter’s mental health or behavioral issues, we are here to assist. You cannot do it all. We have the experience, expertise, and passion needed to help you and your child thrive no matter what you’re struggling with. We treat, care for, and motivate your child to learn about herself, grow, and become the best version of herself in our care so she can go home to you having gained new lessons, tools, and confidence. It is okay to be exhausted and overwhelmed when you are struggling as a parent, but you don’t have to go through it alone. We are here for you and your daughter. Call us now at (435) 586-2500 to learn more about our program.
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